It can be distressing if you, or someone you care about, has thoughts of suicide. 

If you or someone you know is in immediate danger call 111 and ask for the police.

Choose the option below that best describes your current situation.

If you are thinking about suicide right now, it's a sign you need support from people you can trust to help you get you through.

 

Who to contact:

In an emergency, phone 111 and ask for the police

Free text /phone the national 1737 number for free counselling 24 hours a day, 7 days a week

Healthline: Freephone Healthline to talk to a nurse on 0800 611116

Talk to your GP. After-hours numbers are:

Nelson 03 546881

Marlborough 03 5206377

Motueka 03 5288866 or 03 5288358

Golden Bay 03 5250060

Murchison 03 5231120

Search the Healthpoint website to find the closest counselling service to you

 

Use a safety plan

Developing a safety plan for yourself, with the help of someone you trust, can help reduce your risks.  Use your safety plan alongside professional support from your GP and/or mental health services.

Find out how to use a safety plan and download the safety plan that works for you – one for you and one for your trusted companion to help you fill out. Here we give you a choice between a plan developed by Nelson Marlborough Health and one developed by the Mental Health Foundation.

Mental Health Foundation safety plan

 

Other website resources

How to help

Asking someone 'are you thinking of killing yourself?' will not increase their risk of suicide.

Many people who are thinking about suicide want help, but don't know how to ask. They sometimes even believe they can't be helped.

Talk to them about how they are. You can ask them if they are thinking about suicide and if they are, help connect them to a service. 

Stay with them until they are supported. 

The simple AEIOU guidelines show how you can support someone.

Ask are you thinking of suicide?
Ensure their immediate safety
Identify their problems
Offer hope,help and support
Use professionals and community

Who to contact:

In an emergency, phone 111 and ask for the police

Free text /phone the national 1737 number for free counselling 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. 

Healthline: talk to a nurse on 0800 611116

Talk to your GP.  After-hours GP numbers are:

  • Nelson: (03) 546881
  • Marlborough: (03) 5206377
  • Motueka: (03) 5288866 or (03) 5288358
  • Golden Bay: (03) 5250060
  • Murchison (03) 5231120

Search the Healthpoint website to find the closest counsellor 

For more information and options about where to get help in Nelson Marlborough, view or download the 'Where to go for help' printout below:

Where to go for help printout
Where to go for help.pdf [343 KB pdf]
A printable PDF outlining options and contact details for people who are thinking about suicide in the Nelson, Tasman and Marlborough region. [Click to download]

Use a safety plan

Developing a safety plan with someone thinking of suicide can help reduce their risks. Use the safety plan alongside professional support from a GP and/or mental health services.

Find out how to use a safety plan and download the safety plan that works for you. Here we give you a choice between a plan developed by Nelson Marlborough Health and one developed by the Mental Health Foundation.

Other website resources

If you are worried that someone might be thinking of suicide, or even have a plan to kill themselves, follow these simple AEIOU guidelines:

Ask are you thinking of suicide?
Ensure their immediate safety
Identify their problems
Offer hope,help and support
Use professionals and community.

 

Courses and training

Learn about what helps to keep people safe from suicide and build your confidence. Take a gatekeeper suicide prevention course – available from the following providers:

Lifekeepers

FLO - Pasifika for Life

QPR Suicide Prevention Training 

A-OK Suicide Prevention Training

 

Sign up for the The Top of the South Suicide Prevention Facebook page for information about training opportunities.

For further non-clinical advice about suicide prevention services and support in Nelson/ Marlborough, email [email protected]  

 

Guidelines for holding suicide-related wellbeing support events

Voluntary guidelines have been developed for organisations and groups wanting to hold suicide-related wellbeing support events.

 

 

Regional and national suicide prevention plans

The Nelson/Marlborough 'Suicide Prevention /Postvention Action Plan 2018/2019' outlines some of the key issues, local suicide data and actions required to help to reduce suicide risk in the Nelson/Marlborough district.

Note that the attached plan has been extended by the Ministry of Health to 1 July 2020, during which time Nelson Marlborough Health will work with key stakeholders to develop a new three-year plan.

 

 

The Ministry of Health also produces a national plan:

Ministry of Health Suicide Prevention Strategy  & Action Plan  2019- 2029 - Every  Life Matters

 

Other resources

Filmmakers and others in the stage and screen industry are encouraged to refer to suicide prevention guidelines from the World Health Organization.

Preventing Suicide: A resource for filmmakers and others working on stage and screen

Losing someone to suicide is a very traumatic experience. The way you respond and cope with the death may depend on your relationship to the person who has died and your own personal life experiences; every person’s experience of grief is different. 

Support options

Counselling services

You may also be able to access some counselling via:

  • your GP 
  • Victim Support: 0800 842 846

Suicide bereavement support groups

Some people find significant value in joining support groups to share experiences and emotions with others who have gone through something similar. These can include:

WAVES suicide bereavement support group

If you have been affected by the suicide of someone you know and are 17 years or older, you might be interested in joining an 8-week WAVES suicide bereavement group programme. The programme is provided by trained health professionals and educators from Yellow Brick Road in Nelson and Supporting Families Marlborough in Blenheim.  There is one group session each week, over eight weeks, where members are able to:

  • share their thoughts and feelings about what’s happened
  • discuss the nature of suicide and grief from losing someone to suicide.
  • gain information and ideas about how to care for themselves and others, including children and young people, after a suicide.

Funded by the Care Foundation, the WAVES programme is free, but participants will be asked to contribute a koha or donation towards future programmes.

How to register for WAVES: Contact Paul Martin, Nelson Marlborough Health Suicide Prevention Coordinator. Email: [email protected] or phone 03 548 2798 ext 5.

For more information: Talk to Paul (contact details above) or read about the programme here: https://www.skylight.org.nz/build-resilience/waves

Aoake te Rā bereavement support service

  • Aoake te Rā is a new service funded by the Ministry of Health that has been launched to support those bereaved by suicide. 
  • Aoake te Rā has been developed through co-design and reflects the many voices of individuals, whānau and communities who have shared their knowledge and experience in creating a service that helps people navigate life after suicide loss.
  • Aoake te Rā is free and available to all ages at any stage after bereavement – you can access support as an individual, a couple or in your whānau group.
  • Aoake te Rā offer face-to-face, online and phone support for up to four hours per person.
  • Aoake te Rā means ‘a new sun rises' - the emerging light being a symbol of hope as whānau adapt to their loss.
  • Visit: https://www.aoaketera.org.nz/

Online resources

You might prefer to use online information and resources such as:

Guidelines for suicide funerals
Guidelines for suicide funerals [407 KB pdf]
Prepared by Rev Greg Hughson, Ecumenical Chaplain, Otago University [Click to download]